so i am at this coffee place with dennis...and i dont know how we come to the topic of our parents and the love, respect, affection in their relation...and ofcourse 'indians' that we are, the question of abuse had to come up..and so it did...and we both, very candidly accepted that yes we have seen it in our respective families...
but i guess the similarity ended there...coz though this guy was very pro-mom and my-dad-is-wrong types, he said "maybe our dads were supposed to do that"....and ive not been able to decide whether it disgusted me more or surprised me more..
SUPPOSED to do that???? supposed to treat a person like she was not a normal human with normal desires, feelings, emotions? supposed to suppress her free will? supposed to treat her as your personal slave, like she's born to sacrifice, born to give up? supposed to do that???
im not going on a personal war against this guy,,,he's a good friend and will be...but this is the general mindset we have..its not about him...its about us...
i wonder if dennis was a girl, would he still say the same thing? and i wondered if my partner abused me and then someone said to me..."listen dont make a fuss about it...you're just a mortal and probably he's supposed to do it", what would my reaction be? i know what it would be...
i would say...when i was probably 1 minute old and my mom held me in her arms for the first time..she would have looked at me and thought that i would have a beautiful life, she would have hoped that her little child would live a life better than hers, a life with love, affection, laughter, dreams, a life that every mother's every child deserves. she would have wished for me, every happiness that she could not have. And so, i would not take a single minute of abuse because i owe a beautiful life to my mom....and no one is 'supposed' to take it away from me or from her.
really, i wonder what kind of society we live in, which still lets men be bastards...
1 comment:
you blogged! :)
and I agree with you; but its not a fair world. thankfully we do not have to put up with this anymore. Long time before things change in unprivileged sections of socirty...
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