equations, equations...but its not physics

im writing this post to celebrate somebody else's article...i read the article and was left wondering how correct that person could be...the person in question is Vikarm Bhatt (yup..you heard it...he is that director)..and it was his article in the hindustan times that has me thinking since morning...

the article was about how in a relationship, one person will always love more and the other less..."everyone is someone's fool!!"...he says that the rule of love should be taught in school like all other laws of physics and it goes like..."when two people are in love, one will always love the other person more and the one who loves less will control the relationship"(thats like THE truth of any realtionship...i subscribe to this completely)

yeah ironical but its true...the one who loves more would want the relationship more, so naturally would go all out to make it work. this person would sacrifice more, bear more insults and snubs, get hurt more (and still put up with it), and compromise more. whats bad about this whole situation is that the more you give, the less you get in return, infact the more you are taken for granted.

but what caught my heart were his last 2 paras...how much ever we realize and understand the irony of this law, we can do nothing about it. "It's not in our power to love more or love less. we just love as we know how to."

so the next time you're hurt, the next time you compromise and bend and accomodate the whim of your lover, remember the equation. "Its not the power of our lover over us, its the power of our love that makes us weak."

P.S.: the theoritical part of love is so scientific and easy to understand and handle. then why does everyone mess up the practicals?

just a bout of depression

Ive never been away from home…the last time I went away was for a project…the firm was in Hyderabad and it was only for 20 days…and I must say I enjoyed myself…there was nothing “enjoyable” about the trip…it was pure academic and I had to go the firm all days from 9 to 6. but the place was beautiful…hi-tech city…and there was this secret lake..(though there was nothing secret about it)…

my guest house was 15 mins drive from the office and the food was awesome…especially the breakfast…there was tea as soon as you woke up…(what else do you want in life? Not much as far as im concerned). the drive form the guest house to office was beautiful…complete with rocky hill sides and the secret lake on one side and the hi-tech city on the other…

I hardly got time to see anything or go anywhere…not that I wanted to…im hardly ever interested in seeing the historic monuments and landmarks and so-called “tourist attractions”…I find that quite boring…come on, if you had to get up early in the morning, travel and then go to some crowded place, then you might as well have stayed at your own place. I can never be that driven in life…I would rather stay in my hotel room, have tea and breakfast in bed…maybe go for a walk or drive down to some secluded place to be on my own…or maybe just drive without any destination in mind… that’s a holiday pour moi…

I used to get up, go to office, come back and sleep…that’s it…that was all I managed in those 20 days…yeah and I hate to admit..i also managed 2 movies in one of the multiplexes…nobody expects me to go without movies for 20 days…so that was pretty much what I did…

And to top it all was the bike ride…thru some unknown lanes…with god gulty…how he managed the bike and the 2-day visit is something only he can explain…but he did…and just when I thought this was the last ill see of him before he went to the US, he came to the station to see me off…the guy didn’t know anything about my reservations…just guessed my train…what station I will take the train from…went to some wrong station…didn’t see me…came to my station and met me minutes before the train left…quite filmi I should say…but then these are the moments that stay with you a lifetime, isn’t it?

And after this trip, ive never been even as far as lonavla…my travel log is quite sad, I must say…even the trip to hydi was not a holiday…so to think of it, I cant even recollect the last holiday I went for…(trips to home town not included)…pretty sad,huh? Oh yeah I did go to bangalore, ooty and mysore after my 12th with su and maggi…so I guess that was the last holiday I went for…

This post has turned out to be quite depressing…not what I had in mind when i started...

P.S.: gulty, this was written before i spoke to you...i just posted it now.