im writing this post to celebrate somebody else's article...i read the article and was left wondering how correct that person could be...the person in question is Vikarm Bhatt (yup..you heard it...he is that director)..and it was his article in the hindustan times that has me thinking since morning...
the article was about how in a relationship, one person will always love more and the other less..."everyone is someone's fool!!"...he says that the rule of love should be taught in school like all other laws of physics and it goes like..."when two people are in love, one will always love the other person more and the one who loves less will control the relationship"(thats like THE truth of any realtionship...i subscribe to this completely)
yeah ironical but its true...the one who loves more would want the relationship more, so naturally would go all out to make it work. this person would sacrifice more, bear more insults and snubs, get hurt more (and still put up with it), and compromise more. whats bad about this whole situation is that the more you give, the less you get in return, infact the more you are taken for granted.
but what caught my heart were his last 2 paras...how much ever we realize and understand the irony of this law, we can do nothing about it. "It's not in our power to love more or love less. we just love as we know how to."
so the next time you're hurt, the next time you compromise and bend and accomodate the whim of your lover, remember the equation. "Its not the power of our lover over us, its the power of our love that makes us weak."
P.S.: the theoritical part of love is so scientific and easy to understand and handle. then why does everyone mess up the practicals?
3 comments:
That article speaks the truth I think, I have been writing about how I cannot stop the kind of love I have for my family, even though it is unhealthy. Very enlightening!
but inbe CS, we can classify it as a NP-hard problem , I say..really..its quite complicated..
i truly support this bitter truth ... but i think the equation described by the author is incomplete ....this is one part of the story, when the other part adds to it, then only it makes the complete and final equation .... author says "the one who loves more would want the relationship more, so naturally would go all out to make it work. this person would sacrifice more, bear more insults and snubs, get hurt more (and still put up with it), and compromise more" ..... now this is what i think and i have seen so many real life examples .... it goes like this " there always exist a THIRD person, who loves the person who is sacrificing more, bearing more insults, getting hurt more and compromising more in a relation ......and this person loves him/her more than any other person in the World .... now it becomes an Equation ..... so whenever a person is on the compromising side, he/she should be happy that the days are going to change, and he/she will be on enjoying side ..... just open the eyes/mind and see around .....everything is balanced, in a person's life, he/she will be on both sides of a relationship (enjoying/compromising) and both the counts will be equal .....i subscribe to this bcoz i have been on both sides of a relationship .....
PS: "kehney ko saath apne ek duniya chalti hai, par chhup ke is dil mein tanhaayi palti hai" - Namastey London
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